Thursday, September 18, 2014
to love or not to love
Due to fairy tales and love stories of this day and age, a lot of people strive to find their 'one true love' so they can be as happy as the animated characters and that one main antagonist from that chick flick. Some think they find it and end up miserable but devoted to their 'love' who ignores, abuses, uses, ect, them, others grow old together but bitterly regret it, and some find happiness in their lover and keep it throughout their lives. Some say that finding the one person is impossible and prefer to stay away from the pain they know will follow a relationship. Sounds a little lonely to me personally, so here is my question: Do you believe a romantic relationship is worth it? And if so what do you think makes a relationship that lasts? In my opinion it is worth it, but you can not just jump into it. To make a relationship that lasts I believe you need not a lover who loves and praises you dearly but a best friend who loves you and is truthful and willing to communicate with you as well as love you. That is just my opinion though, what is yours?
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
Honestly as we discussed in class, I think love is more than just a feeling. If you think about it, feelings come and go and never remain stable; therefore I concluded that love is something that transcends our capacity to feel. I think love is the capacity to do what is good and just for others even when you don't feel it. Maybe the reason why we hurt those that we claim to love is because all we do is "feel" but never really act in accordance to what it means to love.
ReplyDeleteThere are going to be so many different points of view on this topic. I think a lot of the views people hold about love being “worth it” come from personal experiences. Sometimes someone who’s been burned and hurt doesn’t want to look past it and move on to a better relationship. However, that break in a relationship might just be the momentum that propels them into a different way of thinking. Obviously, a couple that has had a faithful, honest relationship for many years believes that the risk is worth finding your “one true love.”
ReplyDeleteI think that other external factors might affect the way someone views love. A child that comes from a broken family might not want to partake in any relationship that could cause a broken family. The divorce rate is increasing every year, so that’s not exactly a road map to a successful relationship.
I don’t personally believe that the hurt is worth finding “one true love.” I don’t see the sense in spending all of my time worrying about whether or not my significant other is happy with me or is planning on breaking up with me. I don’t see why some people stay with their boyfriend/girlfriend because they’re afraid of being alone. To me, you’ll never be happy with someone else if you’re not happy by yourself first.
I'm not really sure myself. Romantic love is just one kind of live, and it can certainly be a grand thing. More often than not, it has very little to do with the fairy tale nonsense constantly thrown at us in everyday life, since love is far more trouble than that, and almost NEVER the one thing that is wrong or going wrong in our lives. Humans are far more complex individuals than film makes them out to be, since if they covered every facet of human life they would cease to be good films. But love is just kind of a thing we have in our lives; we are born into love usually, and those without it are most often miserable individuals. But romantic love isn't always in our lives, and thus I think it's a less important kind of love then, say, familial love.
ReplyDeletePursuit of it? Sure, yeah, go get yourself involved. Will it be 100% positive? Of course not! Nothing is. If you expect that, you are putting way, WAY too much pressure on your partner. How to make them last? Accepting a flawed person, not trying to fix them (unless they're hurting themselves and are in serious need of help), and perhaps working at being two people who support one another, not just a person who is with another person, is a good approach too. We are selfish beings naturally, I think, and often pursue things like romantic love for our own fulfillment, which is not a good way of going about.
Treat it like buying a car is what I'm saying, because if you want something that lasts, take care of it and be ready for it to break down. Nobody gets something right the first time, and if they do, they're very, very lucky.